If someone is going through a very challenging period, there is the possibility of a lot going on internally. As for why this stage in your life is challenging, it could be for a number of different reasons.
They may have gone through a breakup, lost their job, or got into a fight with a friend or family member, for example. When it comes to what’s going on internally, this could be a time when you are feeling overwhelmed.
A closer look
If you dig deep and connect with your feelings, you may find that you feel helpless, hopeless, powerless, and worthless. Before what happened happened, they might have been in a good way, or at least pretty resolute.
Consequently, what has happened externally is likely to be seen as the reason why they feel that way. If it weren’t for this then they would be fine and so would his life.
An approach
By having this perspective, they could hope that their life will soon return to the way it was before. Also, they can do what they can to change what is happening externally.
When it comes to the people in your life, those who knew what they were like before might also have a similar perspective. This may mean that most, if not all, will encourage you to do what you can to get your life back to the way it was before.
Going forward
If you are able to pull yourself together and do what you can to change your life, it may not be long until you feel different. It might be possible for them to get back with their ex or find someone else, find another job, or reconcile with whoever has fought, for example.
Thanks to this, their life will return to normal and it will soon seem that what they went through never happened. This could be a time when you will feel very relieved and incredibly grateful.
A short term solution
Still, if this happens, it doesn’t mean that your life will stay like this for long. It may not be long until something similar happens again and they end up experiencing the same feelings.
Once again, they could end up doing the same thing as before to make their life go back to the way it was and feel different. This approach may work, or you may find that it doesn’t get you very far this time.
A perspective
One way of looking at this would be to say that “bad” things happen, they are part of life and, when they do happen, it will be normal for someone to be emotionally affected. With this in mind, the best thing you can do is get back up and do everything you can to keep going.
Bathing in self-pity and feeling like a victim will not help you; what will help is to keep a positive attitude and take action. You could even say that at times like this, they must be stoic.
Deepening
However, what if it is not so black and white and there is actually much more? What if what happened primarily triggered how they already felt and that these feelings caused them to experience what they did?
If you see yourself as a mere observer of your life, you will not be able to see how it is. Being an observer of their life will mean that they did not participate in what happened and how they feel will be nothing more than a consequence of what happened.
Two levels
For one to understand what this is like, he will need to know that he has a conscious and an unconscious mind. When it comes to your unconscious mind, this will be the part of them that carries the material that your conscious mind has disowned, among other things.
But, although your conscious mind will completely forget what has pushed your part of them, it does not mean that this “stuff” will not have an effect on your life. From this deeper level, it will exert a massive influence on your life; a far greater influence than your conscious mind.
Meant to be
One thing that will happen, by having this emotional pain within them, is that they will unconsciously co-create situations and circumstances that are an energetic combination with how they feel deep down. Your emotional pain will then co-create an experience and this will allow you to experience the feelings that co-created what happened.
Therefore, although it may seem that experiences are first and feelings second, in reality it is feelings first and experiences second. What this emphasizes is that repressing something does not neutralize it.
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Conscience
When something “bad” happens, it will be a time when your true feelings have entered your consciousness. This will give them the opportunity to process these feelings, allowing them to develop a better connection with themselves and fundamentally change their life.
If they don’t take advantage of this opportunity, the same thing is likely to happen over and over again. One thing you can do, if you are not sure how to move forward, is seek outside support.
