Texting flirting isn’t just another form of flirting, it can help you land the first phone call, the first date, or maybe the girl in your living room the same night, depending on how skilled you are. Flirting with text is like playing chess, the only difference is that you want to sleep with your enemy at the end. If you are adept at flirting in general, then texting flirting is a blast. If you are feeling frustrated that the girl does not respond to you, does not initiate conversations, acts cold, falls apart, etc., then these symptoms could be the result of some rookie mistakes. In that case, you should check my Dos and Don’ts for Texting Flirting Article.
Suppose you are not a complete flirt fan in general, here are some tips that really helped me with my text game.
The funny boy
Although this is a no-brainer, I have seen guys get extremely boring or extremely cheesy with their flirty text messages. The prettier the girl is, the more guys want to play it safe or impress her with their amazing pickup lines. The harder you try, the cuter you are, you should have learned that in high school. Guys forget to put a little smile on the girl’s face. If you can make a girl smile, make her get away from reality, from her boring and stressful life even for a few seconds, you will go very far. Jersey Shore, Superbad, NFL, the theater, etc., exist for a reason: They help you get away from your reality and forget about your problems for a moment.
It’s okay if you’re not the comedian in your social circle. You can always develop the skill like everything else. Watch stand ups, sitcoms, funny movies, read books, and learn the basics like delivery, timing, expectation versus reality, your audience, comebacks, etc. The bottom line is that you need to develop this skill to be successful in the social areas of your life, especially when it comes to scoring with a girl.
Practice with instant messaging
Have you ever thought of a killer response three seconds after texting the girl, you spent half an hour on? I know I have. A quick way to think is chatting online on Gmail chat, Facebook chat, AOL, etc. If you have friends, great. It doesn’t have to be a girl, it could be your friend (but don’t flirt with your friend, that will raise a lot of questions, LOL). If you are talking to your friend, try to mention what interests him, make him laugh with some funny responses.
Using emoticons in your text messages
Women are emotional creatures and portraying emotions through text messages is essential. I know in the boy world, it’s not okay to send emoticons to another guy. On the other hand, if you want to be successful with texting flirting, you need to show the right emotion at the right time. Emoticons also help a lot with misinterpretations. Let’s say you send a teasing text message to a girl. To show that you are really teasing her and that you are not being rude, you will use a wink face. There are a lot of them these days, so I mostly stick with the most popular ones. If you want to use others, make sure you know what they mean, so the text message doesn’t backfire.
The push / pull technique
You know what the best thing about texting is? The wait. The longer you wait to reply to the text message, the more attraction it creates. If she asked you a question, responding instantly won’t hurt much, but it won’t do you much good either. This does not mean that you always wait two hours to respond. Sometimes reply to text messages pretty quickly and sometimes wait half an hour or so, always mix it up. You want her to chase you. You want to appear like a guy with a life, which is spontaneous and unpredictable. People do not value the things they can easily get. If he picks up on you with a couple of text messages, he’ll lose interest pretty quickly.
