If your boyfriend or girlfriend has ever started to walk away, chances are you’ve reached into your pocket, pulled out your cell phone, and hoped to find a way to respond to your ex. You are looking for the perfect text … those magic words that will fix everything and make your connection stronger than ever.
You struggle to find the right words. Write, then erase. Writes. Then delete. And you wonder if it’s worth it.
As someone who spends a lot of time digging into relationship gossip, fact, and fiction, a question I’m regularly asked is, “Will this work for me? How do I know if my ex will accept me?”
After all, no one wants to spend a lot of time and effort on something that will never happen. If your ex has really gotten over the relationship, what’s the point of trying to text him back? Wouldn’t it be better to move on?
I have to agree that chasing something that will never happen is a good way to go crazy. But there is a way to know if they have a chance to get back together.
What is it? It is apathy.
Apathy is a state of indifference and lack of emotion. When it comes to relationships, hatred is not the opposite of love, but apathy.
If your ex is listless with you, it will be extremely difficult to win him back. A listless ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is even harder to win back than one who hates you.
Any kind of emotion (good or bad) means that there is hope. When there is no emotion and complete indifference, it is probably best to move on and not waste time.
In Text Your Ex Back, author Michael Fiore states: “Apathy will kill any chance you have of getting back together with your ex, but any powerful emotion, positive or negative, can be transformed and guided by simple techniques that I am going to teach you. “.
Michael calls his techniques “text judo” because they take your ex’s current emotions and turn them to your advantage, just as a martial artist who practices judo learns to use an opponent’s strengths against him. The right texting at the right time can help turn anger into love and pain into acceptance and desire.
If you are wondering whether or not your ex will accept you, take a look at their emotions towards you. There is love. Hurry? Anger? Hurt? Confusion?
If so, then there is hope.
