Although the life of a man entangled with a mother is likely to revolve around his mother, that does not mean that he will not end up in a relationship. When this happens, you may spend less time doing things for your mother.
But as time goes on, he could end up focusing more on his mother’s needs. So even though it will have changed and this will have a negative effect on your relationship, it will simply have returned to the way it was before.
Step back
If your partner could go back in time and see what he was like, you could soon see that he hasn’t really changed. It changed when he was there for her, not when he turned back to his mother.
Still, she could hope that he would be back to the way he was in no time. She may believe that if you give her some space, she will end up focusing less on her mother and more focused on her.
A breath
What may influence why you have withdrawn from your partner is that you feel smothered and controlled by her. Instead of asserting your limits and talking, you’ve ended up disconnecting from her.
However, while this will make it easier for him to be around her, her mother is likely suffocating and controlling. Then you will have moved away from a person with whom you are uncomfortable, only to get closer to another with whom you are also uncomfortable.
Overwhelmed
What is happening in your life probably means that you will feel frustrated and angry, but you will probably do everything you can to hide how you really feel. Then it will not be a rug, but it will act as a doormat.
He will simply tolerate being treated badly and accept things that do not serve him. Somewhere deep within him will be his masculinity, and he will need to embrace this part of his being in order for his life to change.
A defenseless position
He may have moments when he thinks about what it would be like for him to stand his ground, but he won’t go beyond that. Unlike a man who has control over his life, he might see himself as totally powerless.
Now regardless of whether your partner is smothering and controlling or simply perceives your behavior this way, being around such a woman is likely what you are comfortable with on a deeper level. So, on a conscious level, it will bother you but on another level, it will be what you feel safe.
Other part
Because of this, even if your partner wasn’t overly masculine when you first got together, he may have become overly masculine during the time you spent together. Thanks to your inability to be assertive and take initiative, your partner will have been forced to assume the “male role.”
So even if your partner doesn’t have a problem with being this way from time to time, they may have to be this way at work – for example, they won’t want to be like this all the time. There will be times when you want to let go, be in your feminine and have your partner take the initiative.
A closer look
The question is: why can’t he assert himself? This likely comes down to that, on a deeper level, you fear being rejected and abandoned if you assert yourself.
Failure to do so is likely to lead to this result, yet you will believe that failure to do so is the only way to avoid it. Pleasing your partner, and to do this, you will believe that you need to hide your needs, it will be seen as the only way to keep your partner close.
Back in time
To understand why this is the case, it will be necessary to take a closer look at what happened during his early years. This was probably a time when your mother used it to meet some of her unmet, adult needs from childhood.
Had he expressed his needs, he probably would have been punished, disapproved, and / or abandoned. To survive, he had to lose touch with his needs and do what he could to please his mother.
Repeating the past
On a deeper level, you will not be able to realize that your partner is not your mother. That is why he will see her in the same way that he saw his mother as a child and therefore he will hide both his needs and himself around her.
You will fear that your life will come to an end if you want to express your needs and assert yourself, and you will likely feel like an abandoned child. Thanks to what he did not receive as a child, he will find himself emotionally stunted.
A great need
Feeling so empty and unsupported, you will unconsciously want to be cared for and given the love you did not receive as a child. That is why you will have attracted a woman who acts like a mother or you will have been forced to take on this role.
The problem is that this stage of his life is over; You need to cry out for your unmet childish needs. Neither your partner nor anyone else can give you what you missed as a child.
Awareness
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If a man can relate to this and is ready to change his life, he may need to seek outside support. This is something that can take place with the help of a therapist or healer.
