One thing that can go through a woman’s mind, that is, if she is in a relationship with a man who is entangled with his mother, is if he can see that he is not living his own life. Being outside, so to speak, you will be able to clearly see what is happening.
Instead of putting his own needs first and doing what is right for him, he will tend to put his mother’s needs first and do what is right for her. This could be something that other people have noticed throughout their life, but have not mentioned.
Shot down
On the other hand, if this has been mentioned in the past, you may have dismissed what was said. This likely means that you have not taken the time to reflect on what was said.
If you had taken the time to consider what was said, it would have given you the opportunity to change your life. Unfortunately, it would have been a business case as usual and would have continued down the same path.
A messenger
Now that you are in a relationship, you will have another person in your life who will be able to see what is happening and who has or will make it clear. If she has yet to make this clear, the way she responded in the past could be how she will respond again.
Your partner will then have something important to share and will care about your best interests, but she may end up being seen as the problem. This will prevent her from taking a look at what has been said and she could end up being criticized.
Two ways
If this happens, your partner may have the impression that he is not going to change and may believe that she needs to break up. Alternatively, you might believe that he will change if you hold on and don’t give up on him.
There is a possibility that he will change if he values and loves the woman he is with. On the other hand, it can all depend on how entangled he is with his mother and whether a part of him, regardless of how small this part is, is ready to draw the line.
Confusion
Apart from this, it may seem strange how a man can be in a position like this and not see what is going on. It will not be necessary for someone to be in a relationship with him to see that he is not living his own life; This will be something that will stand out after someone has known you for a very short period of time.
Still, while it will be easy for a stranger to see, it will be something they will not be able to see. Or, if you have times when it occurs to you that something is not right, you may soon be blocking these ideas.
Abnormal
Considering that you are an individual, with your own needs, wants, desires and preferences, you should be able to see that something is not right. Not only this, you should have a need to research why your life is the way it is and to do something about it.
Instead, most of your time and energy will be devoted to your mother and you won’t have the need to do anything about it. What is clear is that you are neglecting yourself and for whatever reason, this is what you are comfortable with.
Back in time
This is most likely a consequence of what happened during his early years, this being a stage in his life in which he had to focus on his mother’s needs. Because she was in an underdeveloped state, she would have unconsciously viewed him as an extension of herself and as someone who was there to meet her needs.
To survive, he would have had to lose touch with his true self and develop a false self. This would have involved losing touch with his own needs and feelings, his inner world, and being super focused on the needs and feelings of his mother, his outer world.
The consequences
In addition to distancing himself from himself, he would not have received what he needed to receive in order to grow and develop. He will then look like a man, but he will be in a symbiotic state and therefore will probably feel like a traumatized child deep down.
His early experiences taught him that his needs were bad, and since his needs were part of him, he would have believed it to be bad. Furthermore, he would have been conditioned from a young age to focus on his mother and ignore himself.
Repeating the past
With this in mind, hopefully focusing on your mother feels comfortable and it doesn’t occur to you that it’s going against yourself – your sense of self will be in an underdeveloped state. This is what you have been doing for most of your life.
However, you can often feel frustrated and angry, but since you are likely to suppress these feelings, you may find that you often feel depressed and depressed. So, unlike ancient Sparta, where children were raised to be warriors, he will have been raised to serve his mother.
Murder of the soul
The person who was supposed to help him prepare for the real world would have used it. He is on this planet to live his own life, that is the truth; he is not here to act like his mother’s father.
It is unlikely that his father was emotionally available, that is if he was close, at this stage of his life either, since his support would have allowed him to start the process of individualization; having gradually gone from being emotionally entangled with his mother, to being emotionally separated from her. This would have allowed him to develop a strong sense of self and healthy boundaries.
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Awareness
If a man can relate to this and is ready to change his life, he may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.
