Normally, there is a special dynamic at work in male-female relationships. While women tend to adopt a passive and receptive behavior, men are more active and innovative. A typical example in a club is: the girls wait to be approached, while the boys wait for the girls to be approached. A girl can do two things to enhance her success: she can look her best, dress up in high heels, push-up bras, etc., and she can also give inviting cues for a guy to approach her. A guy is more likely to approach a girl who looks good in her eyes, but he’ll also look for a less attractive one if she shows signs of interest and he sees a green light.
Thus, in a typical male-female interaction, the woman will indicate with her body language and demeanor that she is ready to proceed, while the man will respond to her signals, calibrate, and move accordingly. He will have to follow the steps and initiate, as she expects him to. Once again, she is all about leading. No matter how good a conversationalist you are and no matter how attracted she is to you, you always have to be the one to initiate. Some aggressive and horny women will do it for you, but that is the exception and not the rule.
There are two types of female signals: conscious and subconscious. A girl will give conscious cues when she wants you to make your move. The subconscious signals are more subtle and will be an automatic response to her feeling good in her company. It is very important to learn these signs. Surely you have laughed as many times as I have with the typical scene in Hollywood movies: the girl is attracted to a boy; the guy is attracted to the girl, but the guy doesn’t recognize the signs of interest she sends him, leading to a huge charade. Just learning to recognize the signals women are sending will improve your success exponentially. In a club or in typical day-to-day situations, there will always be some girls around you showing signs of interest and inviting you to get closer to them using body language. If you recognize these girls and make your move, you are likely to succeed.
You will see that sometimes certain signs can be misleading, and it is necessary to develop your intuition for such situations. For example, a waitress has to smile at everyone to get tips, and she might accidentally trick you into thinking she’s attracted to you. To avoid this, you will need to hone your intuition with experience and learn to “feel” whether or not she is really attracted to you. A professional table tennis player does not see the ball. He feels it. His hands move automatically while he is in a trance. Lots of practice will help you to better “feel” the signals that women give, just like the table tennis player does with the ball.
So let’s take a look at the more general conscious and subconscious signs that she is attracted to you:
1. She is relaxed while sitting or standing and talking to you. Her arms are open and not closed; her legs are wide apart or crossed with her feet pointing towards you.
2. She feels comfortable in your company. When you lean closer towards her, she stays in the same position and doesn’t move away from her.
3. Leans closer while talking to you or sits closer when you’re sitting next to each other.
4. She smiles a lot, even laughs at your silliest jokes, or compliments you on something unusual.
5. Sometimes touches your arms or shoulder when talking to you.
6. She fixes her clothes, applies more makeup in the bathroom, or exposes parts of her body, revealing skin and showing erotic parts of the body.
7. Rubs wrists up and down, and rubs, touches, or strokes cheek.
8. Play with her hair, pushing her fingers through it or twisting some curls in a slow, sensual motion.
9. He looks deep into your eyes while smiling, with dilated pupils. She blinks faster than usual or continues to look longingly into your eyes, like your dog when you are about to feed him.
10. When you touch or hug her, she feels comfortable; she might even snuggle closer to you.
11. When you extend your hand to her, she takes it and continues to hold it like they’re already a couple.
12. Bites her lips and licks them, showing her tongue, or moistens her lips with lipstick. Putting a finger or nail in or on the mouth in a sexual way: These are signs of sexual thoughts and are usually signs of arousal.
13. He rubs his legs and presses them against the legs of the table or against your legs under the table, another sign of sexual arousal.
14. Play with your wine glass, jewelry, or other object with a sensual rubbing, stroking motion.
15. The way you sit or stand reflects your body language; she is mirroring you.
Of course, she can’t be doing everything at the same time. But, if you come across more than two or three of them (especially the more serious ones), chances are she is very attracted to you and wants you. A word of warning: just as there are shy guys, there are also shy girls. They may find it more difficult to show signs of interest and flirt with you. They might also try to hide these signs. You will recognize them by their youthful confusion.
And now let’s look at some negative body language, showing disinterest and less attraction to you:
1. Break eye contact and look away when you try to meet her eyes.
2. She makes a face, showing that she is simply bored. She never smiles.
3. When you ask him a question, he answers after a pause: “What did you say?” and it is obvious that she is thinking about something else or she is mentally in another place.
4. There are long, awkward silences in your conversation, and she shows no interest in breaking the silence or bringing up new topics.
5. His legs and arms are crossed; she is sitting some distance away, or she is moving away from you. She leans back, and when you lean closer to her, she either pulls away or just acts like she’s uncomfortable.
6. Does not react to your jokes and does not laugh with you; she may express polite surprise.
And the list goes on. Although persistence is a good trait to have and sometimes by being persistent you can bounce back from the most desperate situations, the negative signs described above show that you have done something wrong and it might be time to move on and find someone else. another girl. . Never let yourself down; success will come with determination and time.
