Many women believe that men are anti-commitment. In fact, that is not the case. Men want love and a relationship just like women, but what they fear is being in a relationship where there is little to no attraction and intimacy. They are afraid of getting caught up in a partnership with the wrong woman.
Let’s take a step back here. First of all, for a man to potentially commit to a woman, he must first be connected to her heart. Young men, especially between the ages of 18-30, are experiencing peak testosterone levels, Testosterone to a man = selfish and selfish. Unless a young man experiences certain powerful life changing events and makes him mature faster, he will not get in touch with his heart until his mid to late 30’s. It is evident when a man is connected to his heart because it will be genuinely sincere, considerate, paternal and loving. You can tell that he is sincere by the depth of his conversations and especially through his actions.
Sometimes a man will be hot and cold. What he is experiencing is confusion. He likes spending time with you and understands that a great connection with a woman is hard to find, but you’re not the kind of woman who makes him feel so good about himself when he’s around you that he doesn’t want to do it again. to be without you. That’s why a man will break up with you and use the line “I’m not ready for a relationship” and then a few months later he’ll commit to another woman.
Men who feel such powerful emotions towards a woman are more than happy to nest with them. If he feels good with a woman, you have several things in common, you regularly participate in activities together, and you have frequent intimate moments, then he will stick to her like super glue.
So how do you create these positive feelings in men?
- First of all, women should restrain themselves and follow the example of a man. They need to let him navigate the rhythm of a relationship: a woman should always be one step behind him. Never give him more than he gives you. However, it is the woman’s prerogative to determine the pace of intimacy.
- Take your time. It takes 5-10 dates or almost 3 months to find out if a guy is right for you. Do not rush. Get to know him before you have sex with him. As soon as a woman has sex with a guy, oxytocin is released into her body and bonds with him. He could get there too, but keep in mind that it takes men longer to start a relationship and get out of the commitment zone than women.
- Keep your emotions in check. Think before you speak by being cautious about what you share with him. You don’t want to overwhelm him or create a negative attraction.
- Focus on the now, not the past or the future. Men are all about the moment. If you get lost in space when you’re with him, he’ll notice and walk away.
