People have gotten married for the wrong reasons and mindset, they cloud their mind with superficial reasons, leaving intact the important issues why they shouldn’t get married in the first place. Below are ten reasons why you shouldn’t get married. please read and be blessed.
1. You should not marry for lust. People have married for lust, only to find out that all that glitters is not gold. The beauty or ugliness of people is not measured on the outside but by what comes from within them. An individual’s contents must be weighed above her container.
2. You should not marry for sympathy or pity. Feeling guilty or pitying someone’s misfortune for any reason and deciding to marry him as a consolation is the wrong decision. For every Jack there is a Jill. God is able to give them a help that meets their situation. He gives a guide to the blind, a nurse to the weak, and a comfort to the brokenhearted.
3. Don’t get manipulated through matchups. No one knows you like your God and his timing and choice is the best for you. He knows your temper, strength and weakness. God knows the help He had created to meet his specification. In fact, no one knows the product like the manufacturer. God must be involved in the choice we make.
4. You should not be pressured to get married. The pressure comes from peers and family. No one in this group can absolutely quantify the pain and heartbreak their loved ones experience in marriage, they can only imagine. Imagination is not good enough to correct mistakes in a bad relationship. When the problems become overwhelming, they will leave you.
5. Do not be prophesied in marriage. Any prophecy is subject to his confirmation. You are not responsible for what God had not told you. God is not a respect of any man. He is able to tell you what he told someone about you. Learn to listen to God yourself.
6. You should not rush to get married. Give it time. Time reveals secrets, time heals wounds, and time will soothe you in your decision.
7. You are not convinced. Marriage is a journey of a lifetime. You need to be convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are ready to go the mile. To save yourself heartbreak, you should keep in mind that a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Take the time to do your checks and be convinced.
8. He or she does not respect you. By respect I also mean not valuing your own worth. A relationship like this has a tendency to abuse and violate your rights, privileges and those of your family members. You don’t have business with someone you can’t respect or they don’t respect you.
9. He or she does not share your religious beliefs. Your religious belief is the center and axis around which your whole life revolves. Accepting to marry people of divergent opinions is to seek calm in a chaotic environment. Two people cannot walk together unless they agree on fundamental issues like their faith and beliefs.
10. Questions of identity. We identify ourselves by our appearance, vocation, character, and associations. You must be able to have the foresight to look into the future to see if you will want to identify with this person for years to come. Marriage gives you identity because the two of you become one.
I’m sure these will serve as a checklist for someone starting a relationship or planning to take their relationship to the next level (marriage). Do the checklist and let God give you peace.
