Okay, so you did something stupid. You broke up with the only person that you now realize she is the only person for you. Or maybe you did something really stupid and she decided to leave you. Whatever the case, you know exactly what she means to you and you’re willing to do whatever it takes to get her back. This will take some work, but if you have a little patience and determination, you might have a shot at it. Here are some tips to help you along the way.
1. Be all you can be
This doesn’t just apply to those in the military; It applies to men everywhere, especially men who are trying to win back their girlfriends. Let go of despair, gain confidence. Yes, it’s okay to cry, but only for a day or two. And no, don’t do it in front of your friends. However, you must put away the tissues and come back to life. How do you build trust? You could ask another girl out, but this would look bad on you. This just calms your ego. Instead, work on your physique, write down the things you like about yourself, and then make a list of the things you don’t. Start working on “I don’t like things”. Kill them one by one. Is there a chance that she didn’t like these things either?
2. Get rid of the green-eyed beast
Jealousy will completely kill any chance you have of getting your girlfriend back. There will be immediate rumors that she is dating this guy or being seen with that guy. It doesn’t matter if they are true or false. You’re not dating anymore. At least you’re not for now. Although it’s hard to get jealousy out of your mind, you have to if you want to have a clear head to get her back.
3. Give her space
No matter who ended the relationship or why, there is still pain to be overcome. Yes, you want to call her; you want to see her every day for lunch. However, she leaves this way of thinking. You have to leave her alone and give her space. If she doesn’t, not only will she see him as a desperate stalker, but any time she spends missing him will end when she files her protection order.
4. Be honest with yourself
Now that some time has passed and you have some clarity, take a hard look at the relationship and make sure you know the error of your ways – the mistakes you made. Ask yourself if you are fully ready to make all the changes necessary to have a strong relationship with her. You don’t want to mess with her heart and mind, so make sure you’re really prepared to do your part in the repairs.
5. “Bump” into her
Find out where you’re going to be for one night and have some control over fate. However, before you do this, make sure you’re really prepared to see her in person. It will be the first time since they broke up and you have something to prove. The first is her confidence level. You can’t fall apart the moment you see her face. The next is to expose the new you. Maybe one of the reasons she left was because of your lack of socializing. Show him that you can enjoy life and not be a homebody. The most important thing is that all this has to be real. A woman can see through a facade in a New York minute.
6. Send him an email
If your accidental encounter went smooth enough, drop him a casual email to further test the waters. Ask her how she’s been, tell her you’ve been thinking about her, and then sign out. You can add that you hope to hear from her. You have to walk before you can run.
7. Call her
So you received a favorable response from your email. Now is the time to give him a call. She starts slowly and once again keep it light. Mention some special moments that you shared, moments that will make you laugh. From there you can get a little more serious. Explain everything that has been going on; tell him everything you’ve been thinking about and the changes you’ve made. However, the most important thing is to tell her how much you love and miss her. Honesty is the best policy, and if you are being truly genuine, she will hear it not only in your voice, but also in your heart.
Getting your girlfriend back is not always an easy process, but it is rewarding in the end. You must reconnect with who you are before you can reconnect with her.
