Let’s face it: kissing someone you’re attracted to requires viscera. You have to have confidence in the other person’s attraction to you and the courage to risk facing whatever may happen. The other person can turn their face away. Or, worse yet, you might finally get the kiss you’ve been waiting for, and nothing will happen. No nerve will tingle. No blood will flow. It was a flop, and all that chemistry you imagined you had went out the window.
The best way to avoid all these situations is knowing when it’s finally okay to kiss someone! And I’m going to tell you how. In this exclusive article, I’ll give you the essential tips you need to lay the groundwork for the first kiss of your dreams. These NEVER FAIL strategies ensure that you forever know when is the right time to approach a chilling kiss.
So listen up guys: first kisses usually happen on first dates, at the end of the night when you’re saying goodbye. If you try to kiss her before you’ve gotten along, she may think you’re bold and cool. Making the effort to see that you are compatible and giving her an idea of what life would be like dating you is important. While you may be tempted to kiss her during the date, control yourself. She is still making a decision about you.
Consider your attitude towards girls kissing. Is it just a prelude to sex? She should NOT do it because you’re curious about what she’s like, or you think she’s hot but you wouldn’t mind spending time with her otherwise. This may be a common assumption, but women have a sixth sense that picks it up RIGHT AWAY!
Instead, adopt the attitude that kisses are wonderful and special gifts to be given to a girl because you care about her and are interested in getting to know her better. You must want to kiss her because you enjoy being with her and you want to let her know that you want to spend more time with her.
Both guys and girls know that a first kiss means one thing: I like you and I want to keep seeing you. They will both be anxious at the end of the night, wondering if there will be a kiss and how it will turn out. I know I STILL feel nervous on the drive home from a date. We may have had a great time and are chatting, but in my heart I can’t stop thinking: will she kiss me goodbye? A goodbye kiss is a pretty sure sign of an upcoming date, but if there isn’t a kiss, I usually don’t hear from him.
The perfect opportunity for that first kiss can happen when you least expect it. So EVERY time you’re with a guy or girl you’re interested in, make sure you’re prepared for the unexpected kiss! Brush your mouth well, from the gums to the palate and tongue. Use dental floss and mouthwash to get rid of the last particles. Never let chapped lips go…use a moisturizing lipstick.
If you go out to eat together, think about how the foods you eat will affect your breath. You can go out one night for bland foods to make sure your mouth is clean and fresh for that first kiss. Avoid spicy or strong-flavored foods, including coffee. A bowl of lemon or mint will keep your breath clean. Also, take advantage of those complimentary mints!
Do not smoke. Smokers breath can be attractive to other smokers, but if he or she doesn’t smoke, it will be a big turn off.
Make sure you shave! Women don’t want to kiss you with a stubble scratching their chin. Girls, lose that dark lipstick! There’s nothing worse than letting your lipstick rub across a man’s face or stain his shirt collar.
Ok, now let’s get into the details and address the concerns guys and girls will have about whether it’s okay to kiss.
Guys, remember that whether you like it or not, you have to win her over BEFORE the kiss…don’t expect your dazzling kissing technique to win her over. She should be interested in you and open to the idea of sharing a kiss with you BEFORE you make the attempt.
Second, you shouldn’t even consider a kiss unless you’ve worked for it! By working for it, I mean you have to know her personally, have listened to her, find out everything you can about her. As I say in my “How to Be Irresistible to Women” course, women want to EARN a man’s respect. They want a man to like her not because of how great she is, but because he ENJOYS being with her. She likes who she is, inside and out.
You owe it to her to ask her out on a date where she had a good time and showed you that she enjoyed your company BEFORE she tried to take the plunge.
So test the waters and let her get used to being physically close to you before attempting that kiss. Some ways you can do this are:
Giving you friendly hugs. Show her that you can touch her in a non-sexual way and not expect anything else. Don’t make a big deal out of it. When she pushes you and seems increasingly reluctant to part, you know she wants more. In fact, one day one of those hugs could become the perfect opportunity to plant a light kiss on her lips.
Play it casually. Try some physical intimacy to see how he responds. Use this to gauge if she’s ready to move on to the next step of a real kiss. Touch his arm or his back lightly to guide him to his seat. Try a light touch or stroke on the back of his hand to draw his attention to something. Play the knight and kiss his hand. If she seems electrified by your touch, you’re in business. If she seems scared or uncomfortable, take a little more time.
Increase physical intimacy. Once she seems to like, or at least not mind, your casual touch, “meddle” in her personal space a bit. You may want to try sitting closer to her than normal or leaning into her a little more than normal. Put your hand on top of hers… and let it rest. If she pulls away or freezes, she’s not ready for your kiss.
Now, you have to read their signs. Some body language cues that she is interested enough in you to try a kiss are:
Your smile. Women show their approval with a smile, and if her smile is special and you haven’t seen it before (broad, intimate, genuine, and happy), you can be sure that she’s enjoying your company as much as you are. enjoying hers.
His eyes. If she’s too shy to kiss you, she won’t look you in the eye. If she feels comfortable and open around you, she will enjoy her looking at you…and if her gaze falls on your lips, she feels like you have a yes right there.
Your body position. If he looks at you from the front, with nothing between your two bodies, he is giving you the opportunity to get closer. If her body is away from yours, she crosses her arms, or keeps an object like a table between you, she doesn’t feel comfortable enough to kiss you.
Now it’s up to you to find the perfect moment to kiss. DON’T WORRY that if you don’t take your chance to kiss her, you won’t get another. This attitude will keep you going even when the moment is not as perfect as you thought. There’s always one last chance to kiss her…and it’s on her doorstep at the end of the night.
When you are sure it is correct, your conversation can simply stop and you will find yourself looking at each other in silence, enjoying the experience of looking into each other’s eyes. Consider this moment as a green light. It can’t get any more obvious than that!
