Just because you’ve gone through the motions of breaking up with your ex doesn’t mean you’ve lost all your feelings for him. There is no denying that they spent many happy moments together that cannot be easily dismissed. Those ties are something that you feel binds them together. Are there enough feelings in your ex to guarantee that you have a chance to win them back?
What exactly does that mean when you still say you’re in love?
It is a very valid statement, as there was once a mutual attraction and love to build a relationship. It was a beautiful feeling that they both treasured. Certainly, in the case of a long-term relationship or marriage, many memories are shared. Hopefully most of them are memorable for their degree of happiness.
Be careful with the illusion of thinking that residual feelings of love are enough to justify a reunion. Just because you’re feeling lonely or lingering on past romantic feelings isn’t reason enough to want your ex back, you need to be really sure of your reasons. Knowing deep in your heart that you are only holding on to what is familiar to you may not be the best option. By getting back together under those circumstances, they will likely eventually go their separate ways, as their reunion is not based on anything for sure. Maybe the relationship is better if the two of you are just friends. There is nothing really wrong with that.
Once you’ve determined that you really want and love your ex, you have a bit of work ahead of you. Determine if your ex is interested in rekindling the connection. If so, it will happen gradually without much effort. Try to be patient by giving him time to manage.
Once the two of you come to a mutual decision, then it’s time to start working on a new and improved relationship. If it was a marriage that was about to end, you should seek the advice of a marriage counselor. In either case, a session with a licensed counselor can benefit any couple seeking redress. Most relationships need a little adjustment from time to time. If your counselor is not a good fit for the two of you, find someone who is.
There are many excellent counselors who will be able to help you. Both of you must be willing to seek advice first. If you are still in love with your ex, you don’t need to be discouraged. Be on the lookout for any opportunity to speak with your ex. If you’ve laid the groundwork for effective communication, you’ll be able to effectively follow the advice of a counselor, which is all you need.
And soon you will no longer claim them as your “Ex”, but they will be your soul mate.
