It would be hard to find a married couple who would readily admit that they have the ideal relationship. Marriage is not always a walk in the park. Sometimes, it involves a fair amount of hard work. Obviously, it’s easy to throw in the towel when the going gets tough, but any couple who loves each other deeply isn’t going to do that. As a woman, she may want to get away from her when she realizes that her husband doesn’t find her as attractive, engaging, or as exciting as he used to. You work hard to be the best balance of wife, mother, and friend that you can be. Knowing that the man you love finds you boring can be both frustrating and discouraging. There is no better time than the present to show him that you still have some spontaneity in you.
Make some personal upgrades for yourself
Sometimes a husband is bored with his wife because she is bored with herself. If you follow the same mundane routine day after day and have lost interest in trying something new, your husband may start to see you as uninteresting. He obviously didn’t feel that way when you two met, fell in love and got married.
If you really feel like the spark has left you, it might be time to rediscover that part of yourself. Many women fall into a rut when they marry and become mothers. They put the needs of others before their own and that inevitably causes them to lose their own sense of identity. The result can be a woman who is not only dissatisfied with herself, but also frustrated with where she is in life.
You can change all that by embracing the woman you want to be again. If she gave up her career to become a full-time mom, now may be the right time to consider going back to working part-time or even volunteering a few hours a week.
The moment you get out of the box you’ve been trapped in, you’ll also become that much more interesting and intriguing to your husband. It’s hard not to put your family first, but it’s also imperative that you cultivate who you are. Finding her new passion in life, she will soon discover that her husband will find her just as attractive as the day they met.
Plan something unexpected today
The thought of coming up with new things to do in a stagnant marriage may seem like a lot of work, but it doesn’t have to be. Even trying something as simple as cooking something completely unexpected for dinner will change your husband’s opinion of you almost instantly. If he’d rather not struggle to come up with a new dish, gather the ingredients, and sweat all afternoon in the kitchen, why doesn’t he make a reservation at an exotic restaurant? Put your husband’s best suit on the bed and get dressed to the nines before he gets home. In this scenario, you tell her to shower and change quickly, and you head off to an impulsive, exciting dinner. You will be the one to sweep him off his feet.
If your husband is a huge sports fan and has always holed up in another room while cheering on his favorite team, now may be the time to jump into sports with him. Buy tickets for their team’s next home game and join them in the stands or on the sidelines. He will not expect this at all and will be thrilled that you have suddenly become interested in something that he absolutely adores.
Reconnect with your husband as a couple
Your husband may see you as a boring partner, because he relates more closely to you as the mother of his children than to his lover and equal romantic. You have to get her to change her mind so that she sees you as a woman who can effortlessly fill all those roles and more.
Partner time in a marriage is so important and many wives and husbands just don’t recognize it. They think that if they spend time together and with the children, they are spending quality time as a family. That’s true, but there’s also a lot to be said for quality time together.
You don’t have to invest in expensive dates to make this happen. However, you have to invest your time, energy and imagination. Plan times for you and your husband to spend together. Share a relaxing glass of wine at the end of the day after the kids have gone to bed, or take turns making breakfast in bed on weekends.
You really want to show your husband that you are both his wife and his mother. If he can see you in the renewed role as his romantic partner for life, you will instantly ensure that he sees you in a new light as a dynamic and vibrant woman.
Getting out of a negative place within a marriage can be difficult, and showing your husband that you are far from boring can be challenging. However, a happy marriage where you are respected and your needs are met is worth any effort you have to make.
